Don't make your LIFE a COMPROMISE

When you stop Expecting 

and 

start Accepting life 

as it is

Life no longer remains a LIFE,

Its rather a  

COMPROMISE !!!!

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Women's Day Special

WOMEN'S DAY SPECIAL :

Don't wait for others to come and love you... Its your life.. Love Yourself, before anyone comes and destroy you.

Happy Women's Day !

Cockroach Theory : It matters how you see the problem !

Sunder Pichai-Cockroach Theory -Don’t miss to read

A beautiful speech by Sundar Pichai - an IIT-MIT Alumnus and Global Head Google Chrome:

The cockroach theory for self development

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand............LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!!

Why not this new thought?

*एक सोच*

आज कल सब के  FB "प्रोफ़ाइल" पर चल रहा है "मेरी बेटी मेरा अभिमान"

अगर कोई लिखे "मेरी बहु मेरा अभिमान" तो बात बने

"बेटी तो सबको प्यारी होती है पर किसी ओर की बेटी को प्यार दे सको तो कुछ बात बने ।"

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2017 ! Lets End Happily AND Welcome the next year

Few simple rules to follow in the coming year . . .

1.) If you do not GO after 

What you Want,
You'll never HAVE it.

2.) If you do not ASK,
The Answer will
always be NO.

3.) If you do not Step FORWARD,
You will always be at the same PLACE.

4.) No one is coming to make your next year successful
This life is 100% yours responsibility. 

Learn to handle it yourself.

5.) Learn to let unwanted people GO.
Not everyone in your life is meant to STAY.

A Good BEGINNING makes a GOOD END. 

Lets start and prepare ourselves to play well for the coming year.

Have a great year!

☄☃☄★☃☄

Definitely ! You deserve this !

#Every Girl Deserves this

Yes , every Girl deserves a man like this... 

no matter what she chose.. 

Arrange Marriage 

OR

Love Marriage !

Daily Quote #18

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The tree does not bother about the flowers that fall,

It is always busy in making new Flowers blossom.

Similarly,

Life is not about what we have lost so far, 

Its about what we can still Grow.

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ज़िन्दगी गुलज़ार है

सिखा न सकी जो उमर भर किताबें मुझे।

फिर करीब से कुछ चेहरे पढे और,

बहोत से सबक सिख लिये।

Definition of "Pyaar" "Love"

"Pyaar" 

Bachpan me muft (Free) milta hai,

Jawani me kamana (Earn) karna padta hai,

Aur 

Buddhape me Maangna (Beg) Karna padta hai !!

Daily Quote #17 Winters Special

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*कोहरे से एक अच्छी बात सीखने को मिलती है।*

*कि जब जीवन में रास्ता न दिखाई दे रहा हो तो।*

*बहुत दूर तक देखने की कोशिश व्यर्थ है।*

 *एक - एक कदम चलते  चलो,*

 *रास्ता खुलता जाएगा.*

KanyaDaan . . . Sabse Bada Daan

औरत तेरी यही कहानी :

इंटरवियू मे पूछे गये सवाल : 

इंटरवियुर : आप क्यू करना चाहती हो?

लडकी : मुछे अपना घर बनाना है।

इंटरवियुर : अभी किराये के मकान मे रहती हो कया?

लडकी : अभी पती के घर मे रहती हुँ।

इंटरवियुर : तो फिर घर कयो बनाना है?

लडकी : मै जब भी गलत के खिलाफ बोलती हुँ, 

मुछे यही धमकी मिलती है ..

अपने माँ बाप के घर जाओ और वही रहना।

जब माँ बाप के घर आती हुँ तो 

जवाब मिलता है 

अब जो भी है , जैसा भी है

तुम्हारा घर वही है। वही रहो।

मै अब तक समछ नही पाई, मेरा घर कौनसा है?

इसलिये नौकरी करके पहले अपना घर बनायूगी। 

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Daily Quote #16

We don't Grow , when things are easy . . .

Rather

We Grow when we face challenges !

Daily Quote #15

If you wake up and try to focus on what a "wonderful" gift life is... you will definitely have a great day !!

"All that we are is the result of what we have thought."

So, think positive .... stay happy.

Happy Teachers Day

#Parents #Teachers #Friends #Brothers #Sisters

Thank you for teaching us how to read and write.
Thank you for guiding to distinguish between wrong and right.
Thank you for allowing to dream and fly high.

#Life
Thank you for giving all such experiences that taught us what books could not.

#Happy Teachers Day !!!!

Deepest Thought : Walk away if it needs . . .

To break up is okay.
To divorce is alright.
To be a single parent, trust me, will not be the end of your world.
To walk away, takes such guts.
Look harder, you’ve got it.
Every one of us has it in us.
Walk away if need be.

Daily Quote #14

Alphabet "o" stands for opportunity which is 

absent in 'yesterday', 

available once in 'Today' and 

thrice in 'Tomorrow'. 

Stay Positive !!!

Daily Quote #13

कभी कभी धागे बड़े कमज़ोर चुन लेते है हम फिर पूरी उम्र गाँठ बाधने में ही निकल देते है

Daily Quote #12

Don't depend too much on anyone in this world, Bcz even your shadow leaves you when you're in the darkness.

Story of a Girl, who dreamt of flying High . . .

It was 11.35 in night. 

Her husband was already slept. Parents-in-law were about to complete their

 half sleep. 

She was still awake.. as a habit of every year.. waiting for 12 am.. her 

birthday to start.. 

Those were the days, when she was in college, then in job, birthdays were 

always special for her, since childhood.. First late night party with friends 

and shouting loud when clock showed 12.. then next day pooja at home, 

with a lunch party for some close relatives, all her wishes fulfilled by maa-papa, bhaiya-bhabhi in evening shopping and lately her favorite domino's pizza in dinner..

Next full day again birthday wishes from colleagues, close friends at work.. 

group lunch.. sometimes the number of cakes she cut on her birthday 

touched half a dozen.. and gifts and wishes.. always uncountable.. 

And, suddenly, her mobile rang.. she came out of her thought's sea.. 

It was 12..

Messages from friends and old colleagues started ringing.. all wanted to 

know how she was celebrating her first birthday post-wedding.. 

What would she tell everyone.. Everything happened in last 8 months was 

moving in her eyes.. From the day she got married.. to the day her husband 

first slapped her in a family party.. every word her mother-in-law said 

cursing her and her parents.. each time her sister-in-law insulted her in 

front of uneducated friends.. every torture.. every tear.. every time she 

shattered.. 

Beep-beep

Message from Maa.. Happy birthday my princess.. May you live thousands 

of years and Almighty bless you with all your desired wishes.. What you 

want as your birthday gift.. 

Could she wish anything for herself.. 

Why her wings were cut when she wanted to fly out..  for a new project,  for 

which her company was sending her to Amsterdam.. she wanted to live her dreams.. wanted to see the world.. to gain experiences.. 

But some relatives and her father's fear plus orthodox nature, and, here she 

was, lying beside a person who never cared for her presence, a family who 

never allowed her to match her level to even a household maid.. she laughed 

over herself.. maid has some self-esteem.. if maid doesn't get enough respect 

from any house, she can complain, argue and yess, can leave the home and 

choose a new one.. and she.. what about her.. 

She didn't feel like replying anyone.. At least she could let others think or 

imagine the grand celebrations of the day.. 

Sleep hugged her around 3:45 in morning.. Next day, a cold birthday wish 

from husband and.. and nothing.. nothing happened.. When everyone slept 

in night, she wrote a text to her mother..

Maa.. I don't want any birthday gift this year and nothing further

 on my birthdays. I wish I could tell you everything that I have 

been through in these 8 months.. I wish you were here to wipe 

my tears and protect your doll.. I wish you could take me away 

from this world which doesn't approve or appreciate my 

existence.. I wish you were able to make dad understand that it 

was not right decision for my life.. I wish you could have stopped bhaiya and bhabhi when they were asked to leave home in blame 

of going against dad's decision.. I wish you could have asked me 

to come back to my home if I was not happy.. I wish.. 

But.. I don't have any wish.. 

Or I have one.. 

Just one thing.. 

Maa, please change back my status to single, if you can.. 

Sent

No reply

For next 3 days, she didn't hear from her mom or anyone in family.. On 4th 

day, she dared to call her mom, no discussion about her message, she 

waited for her response, days went on, but no mention.. On 16th day, she 

finally asked her mom if she has read her message sent on her birthday.. 

Mom said that someone was knocking at the door and cut down the phone.. 

She was shocked, surprised or didn't know how to feel or react.. Did she 

has a home.. Did she belong to anyone.. Who's she.. She became more silent 

than ever.. Stopped expecting from life.. or anyone.. Calls from her family 

were getting less in number.. She compromised with life.. 

Days.. weeks.. and then, months passed 

4 months later, it was again lonely night.. 11.45 pm.. Husband and in-laws already in sleep.. And, she, was waiting for 12 am, her first anniversary day 

to start.. 

11:59 pm

Messages started beeping.. 

Suddenly, doorbell rang.. 

She got scared, but didn't dare to wake her husband up from sleep.. Went to 

open the door.. His bhai and bhabhi were standing out.. Happily, she opened

 the door..

Greets and hugs

But, strange, no anniversary wishes.. 

They insisted her to come with them.. To an apartment.. May be his 

brotherives here after leaving dad's place.. Her bhabhi guided her to a room..

 A new dress, new jewelery, her favorite perfume, and a sexy pair of stilettos.

She was confused, was she going to attend a surprise anniversary party 

without her husband.. She got ready.. Wow.. She didn't remember when she 

last got ready like this.. Beautiful she looked.. 

Bhabhi came to get her, soon they headed to a dark room.. As she entered, 

every corner lit up.. Decorated beautifully.. Her dream theme.. And, here 

they are, her parents, she felt something bitter inside, but avoided it. She 

hugged her parents half-heartedly.. Dad handed her a present box.. Wasn't 

that gift enough for life that she received last year on same day.. Not in a 

mood to create a scene, she took it and kept aside.. After multiple insists, 

she opened the box.. And, there was a card, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO OUR PRINCESS 

She looked her parents in a tiff, it's not my birthday, it's my bullshit 

anniversary, she wanted to shout.. 

Still, controlling her emotions, she picked the card, and there was her job appointment letter, from 1st of next month, from the same company, 

same post, same project still waited for her to fly.. 

She wanted to cry.. 

Controlled.. 

And, the box was still not empty.. below her appointment letter, there was.. 

her heart skipped a beat.. Divorce Papers..

Freedom 

Her wings

And, all shouted together, Happy Birthday 

And, she cried, cried her heart out.. 

It was a new birth of her.. 

A new birth of her dreams.. 

A new birth of her beliefs..